Siblings

Last week, Sylvia talked about friends, right? And one of her main points was that friends influence each other, whether intentionally or not. Therefore, we should be very careful in choosing our friends. But did you know that God had chosen friends for you? And they actually aren't as hard to find as you might think. And I can name them. Sophie, you have a God-ordained friend called Sebastian! And Daisy, you have one named Sam, and one named Ida, and and one named Gus, and one named Becca.

Oh! No groaning! I am a firstborn, as are several of you, and so I can attest well to the annoyance of having siblings sometimes. But, you know, most of the annoyance is really MY problem. For example, if a friend (outside the family) accidentally kicked me in the shin rather hard, I'd just laugh, and say, "oh, it's okay." But if a SIBLING should happen to kick me, it would sound more like, "You JERK!! How DARE you kick me! I didn't even do anything to you!" And then, much to my shame, I would probably kick them back. My problem is that I have different "grace" gauges for my siblings and my friends outside the family.

In order to do that, I need to have a different view of my siblings! They aren't just annoying people who happen to have had the misfortune to be born into my family with the sole purpose of annoying me! They are God's little gifts to me.

Yes, gifts. I call them that because God has a great sense of humor when he gives gifts. He doesn't give us gifts that help our strengths - he gives us gifts that strengthen our weaknesses! Which is why I have my siblings. I still haven't figured out what all their "Jael-weakness-fixing" features are, but I do know a few.
Abi corrects my talking tendency. It's been said that the thing that annoys you most in other people is what you are most guilty of. So, when I feel myself getting annoyed that Abi is talking ALL THE TIME, I just resolve to talk less. It actually does work. (Don't laugh. I talk less than I used to...I think.)

Mike corrects my anger and picking-fights tendency. Everyone has a sibling that is much too like them for comfort. Mike is mine. We both have quick tempers, and we both love picking fights. (These things that I'm admitting are NOT things you want to copy.) Therefore, whenever I get annoyed at him for picking a fight with his brother, or snapping back at Mom, I just pray for him, and ask God to deliver me from those same tendencies.

Johnny corrects all my pampered tendencies. Whenever I get annoyed at him for acting spoiled, I have to think, "Do I act like that sometimes?" The answer is always yes, and therefore I give him a little more grace. :-)

See how that works? Instead of judging your siblings, and reacting hastily, first pause and think, "what is God trying to use them for?"

Sarah Mally told a story where her younger sister Grace was CONSTANTLY asking her to do stuff. "Sarah, can you go get me a glass of milk?" "Sarah, can you run downstairs and get me that book?" "Sarah, can you come help me do this?" All these distractions were really annoying Sarah, until she realized that God was probably using Grace to work a servant's heart in her (Sarah). As soon as she realized this, she started consciously seeking to serve her sister, jumping up eagerly whenever her sister asked her to to something. And you know what? Within a few days of deciding to serve her sister in whatever possible, Sarah noticed that Grace was no longer asking her for anything. So, God often uses your siblings to teach you stuff.
But, in order to WANT to serve them, you have to be able to see the good things in them. Everyone can see the good in their friends, right?

Abi, what do you like most in your best friend?

How about you, Cecily?

See? They were able to find something good about their friend, and I'm sure that, if we had given them more time, they could have kept talking about their friends for several more hours.

Now. A challenge. Starting with Sylvia, let's go around the room and name one good thing about each sibling. So, Sylvia will say 7 things, and Sophie will say 1.

[after going around the circle] Now, that was fun wasn't it? [wink] But you were able to think up one good thing, weren't you?

I want everyone to take out your handout, because we are going to be writing some stuff down. First, I want everyone to take a minute and write down each good thing that you mentioned. BUT...no talking meanwhile. :-)

Okay. Everyone done? Now, I want each of you to tell each and every sibling what you appreciate about them, sometime this week. It can be just what's on your list, or it can be other things. You don't have to go up and randomly say something like, "Hey Abi, you know what? You're good at spelling." You COULD if you want to, but I'd suggest something a little more subtle, like, as Abi is drawing, I come over and peek over her shoulder and say, "Wow! You are great at drawing, Abi!" Find subtle ways to tell them. Tell them at least once a week. Siblings need to be built up. I once heard that it takes ten encouraging words to rectify the damage done by one discouraging word. So encourage your siblings. It will make a difference!

Now. A harder part. I want you to write down at least two ways you could serve your siblings. This could include doing their chores for them every once in a while, or just playing with them. Whatever your siblings enjoy doing (or don't enjoy).

The third section is to be used to remind you to have a "serve a sibling" day. Once, when I was about 7, my parents encouraged me to have a serve a sibling day with Mike. Our relationship was REALLY rocky, and they wanted me to try serving him for a day. So, grudgingly, I did so. I did whatever he wanted to do, like play wiffle ball, and swing on the swing set, or play cars. I actually enjoyed it, and there were zero fights that day. Mom and Dad, of course were thrilled. So, they asked me, "Now, wouldn't you like that every day?" And me, being stupid and stubborn, said, "No." [facepalm] So, Mike and my relationship continued to be rocky for years. It is finally starting to improve, but how much better would it have been if I had only listened to my parents, and irked on my relationship with Mike when I was little.

So, what you are supposed to do with this section is to pick at least one day in the next two weeks in which you will pick one sibling in specific to serve. So, Cecily will pick six days (since Leif is a little hard to serve) in the next two week in which she can serve each sibling. Sophie will pick one (although you can do as many as you want) in which to serve Sebastian. The idea is to get so used to serving our siblings that we do it unconsciously.

Let me warn you, though. Satan HATES it when siblings get along! So, he will put every roadblock possible in your way to keep you from serving them. He will make you even more easily annoyed that you were before! He will make your siblings more annoying than before. He is the father of dissension (think about it - he's been at is since Cain and Abel), so don't expect to be let off the hook easily. This past week or two (ever since I decided to do this lesson), I have been kinda half-heatedly trying to serve my siblings, and be kind to them, and all that jazz. But let me tell you! It has been the roughest week ever! I snap at them SO easily! Everything they do annoys me. Abi has been obsessed with Narnia for a few weeks, and instead of asking her politely to stop, I saying something more like, "Abi! Will you stop talking about Narnia!? I'm sick of hearing about it!" This isn't a good way to respond. Just saying.

But what can be done about that pet peeve that your sibling does? Maybe it's something small, like talking about Narnia non-stop or spilling water onto the counter after washing dishes. Or maybe it's bigger, like making faces at you in public or singing off key on purpose. Whatever it is, there is ALWAYS that pet-peeve (or two or three) that just drives you nuts! How do you deal with it?

Well, I can think of a couple remedies. The first and most powerful is to pray about it. Pray for your sibling, and then look at you, and see what might be in YOU that is causing that peeve to annoy you.

After that step, go to your sibling, and intentionally talk about the peeve. Say something like, "Hey [whoever], I know you probably don't realize it, but there is one thing that you do that really annoys me. Could you please stop?" Then, ask them if there is anything that you do that annoys them, and you can both work on stopping the peeves at the same time. Kinda like mutual encouragement. You will probably also want to include your parents on this one, since they are great arbitrators.

If your sibling rejects your plea in the second step, go to your parents, and explain the problem. They will help you take care of it.

So, I want to pause here for a second, and let everyone write down a pet peeve or two, and, when you get home, I want you to first pray about it, and then talk to your sibling about it.

This process is actually spelled out in the Bible in Matthew 18. "If your brothers sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen to you, take one or two others with you, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' If he refused to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector." (Matthew 18:15-17)
This means that you address it individually, and then go to higher courts. :-)

Okay. I'll let you write now.

Now, the final part. What is the best way to get a better relationship with your siblings?

Can anyone guess?

Yes! Prayer! Pray without ceasing! Your siblings need your prayers! YOU need your prayers! God loves it when siblings get along. He even put a Bible verse in about it! Psalm 133:1: "Behold how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell together in unity." So pray as if your life depended on it, because your relationship does! There's nothing that look more stupid that adults arguing with their siblings. (Trust me, I've seen it!) So work on your sibling relationships now, 'cause they won't get any easier!

And if your siblings become your friends, you are guaranteed friends for the rest of your life, 'cause your siblings ain't never going away! You will always have contact with them, unlike any of your other friends. :-)

Friends

Tonight was a rather unusual meeting! Since Jael's family was out of town, Jael and Abi "participated" in the meeting via Skype. They even got to participate in one of the activities, using email instead of pencil and paper. :)

Since photos are usually by Jael when Sylvia does the lesson, she used screenshots to take pictures from her perspective... that is, the webcam. :D They may not be the best quality, but here they are:

Sophia and Mary

Daisy :)

Making muffins

The Lesson:

Tonight, the lesson topic is “friends”. As girls, we tend to need our friends! Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, you need other people around you. God has designed us to function with others; there's a reason that solitary confinement is one of the worst tortures the Germans inflicted on prisoners during World War II.

Who here doesn’t want friends? (silence) Okay; who does? (everyone raises their hands)

While your parents and siblings should be some of your best friends, friendships outside your family can be very beneficial as well. However, as your parents have probably told you many times, you need to be careful when “choosing” your friends.

To a point, you don’t exactly choose your friends; you naturally become friends with people whom you happen to be around a lot. People you see at Lyceum… people who live in your neighborhood… people who always seem to be invited to the same parties as you… etc. But you do have the ability to choose who you make an effort to spend time with. And the people you spend time with the most will be the people who influence the kind of person you become. If you hang around someone who loves Ninja, you start wanting to play Ninja more. Trust me; I've been this influence on several of my friends! If you are always with someone who loves glorpes, you will be persuaded to love glorpes too. Of course, you can fight that influence… if you think Buggles are better than glorpes or if you hate Ninja and would rather play Frisbee, you can resist your friend’s endeavors to “change your mind” for you. However, it’s much harder to resist the influence of a friend – someone you like – to someone you don’t like or don’t hang out with much.

Friends’ influence isn’t merely "games and glorpes", though. If you spend enough time with someone, you start acting like them – maybe borrowing their favorite phrases or words, or treating your siblings the way they treat theirs. Often it’s unconscious. I once talked to a girl who was struggling because her friends at school all used bad language. Even though she tried not to say the bad words they did, she told me that when she stubbed her toe or something, she had started to use those words. She knew they were wrong, and she honestly tried not use them, but since her friends were always swearing, swearing seemed like the natural thing to do whenever she was off guard.

And the influence can be even more subtle. About seven years ago, I was in a kids’ choir that had long rehearsals every week, with a lot of free time before, during, and after each rehearsal. That free time was spent talking, and one girl in particular became my friend during that time. She was nice, but her favorite topic of conversation was her brother… and all of the horrible things he did to her. She always seemed to be complaining about him, so guess what I started to do? At that time, I only had two brothers and one sister, but I started complaining to her about all of them, constantly finding fault with them, and seeing the negative rather than the positive. And this wasn’t just “teasing” complaining, it was more like “look at me, I'm so pitiful; I have a horrible life because of my brother” complaining. It was actually a good thing for me when this choir ended and I didn’t see this girl anymore.

Now, I'm not saying that just because your friend complains about her siblings that you shouldn’t talk to her anymore. The situation wouldn’t have been a problem for me if I'd been willing to counter her negativity with a positive attitude. However, since I wasn’t mature enough to do that, the friendship dragged me down and started to damage the relationships I had with my siblings.

We should never be in a hurry to end a friendship, but sometimes it is needful. If a friend is drawing you away from God or causing you to stumble in another way, you need to do something about it.

As with just about everything, the first step is to look at yourself. Think, “is this problem coming from me? What can I do to fix it?”

The second step, if you decide that you can’t fix the problem, is to go to your parents… which you should probably do in either case. Let your parents guide you through the process.

Next, go talk to your friend about it. It’s important to be humble and let them know that you’re not perfect- that you need help in this area. If the problem is that they use bad words, tell them that you’re struggling because your parents don’t want you to say those words, and ask them to please help you out by not saying words like that around you. Do NOT preach at them; be humble and loving.

If the friend is not a Christian, you need to be extra careful. Humility is vital- explain your standards and ask for their help. Be firm and don’t act like you’re ashamed of your beliefs or your parents’ rules, but be loving and humble. Remember, this is your friend! Don’t threaten to end your friendship with them; make it clear that you care about them. Then, talk to your parents again. If your parents tell you it would be wise to end the friendship, have them guide you heavily through the process. Remember humility! And remember that you are a witness to your friend; you reflect Christ to them. Your influence may eventually bring them to salvation.

It’s never about what we get out of a friendship; friendships are all about giving to others. However, our relationship with Christ comes first. That’s why, when a friendship threatens to seriously injure our relationship with God, we might have to get out of that friendship, or at least avoid being around that friend until we’re mature enough to handle whatever temptation comes from them.

Now, what if your problem isn’t that your friends are influencing you badly, but that your friends aren’t influencing you- because you don’t have close friends?

Guess what? Just about every girl goes through this at one time or another. I went through a period of about three years where I had hardly any friends. It was a huge struggle, and I was extremely lonely, but it was actually a blessing. God kept me from having friends those years because He wanted me to draw closer to Him and realize that He was enough for all my needs.

“Ironically”, it was just when I realized that I was happy without other friends because I had Jesus that He brought friends into my life. Bright Lights started- not this group, but Allison Whisler’s group in O'Fallon. I started forming great relationships with the girls in Bright Lights, especially with the girls in my small group. Then, God decided to bring an amazing girl into my life. This friendship started out in a really, really weird way… the girl first shoved me down the 7-story slide at the City Museum since I refused to go down it on my own, and then in Drama was cast as a nasty schoolgirl who kept insulting me and was supposed to try and hit me with a pie. It was a “fun” friendship; we were always insulting each other… but then, one day, she put an anonymous letter on my chair in Bright Lights. The thoughtfulness in that letter showed me that this wasn’t an ordinary girl… and so our friendship grew deeper. She encouraged me in my faith; she was willing to share her struggles with me and help me with mine; she lovingly and honestly told me my faults when I asked her; she prayed for me; she always led me back to God. I had never had such a friend before. I'm talking about Kalei Swogger.

Years before, I'd wanted a “true friend” who would be fun to hang out with, a positive influence, sweet, kind, etc. Kalei was that friend, but God had a bigger picture in mind than I did. He wanted me to develop a wonderful relationship with Him FIRST. When He had completed this, then He gave me Kalei… and soon, more friendships began growing… real, valuable friendships. Kalei was the first of many “true friends” whom I could trust and enjoy spending time with. It wasn’t until I got to the point where I didn’t need human friendships that God decided to grant all of my desires. That’s the way He works… He wants to make us fully dependent on Him so that we don’t need anything else to complete us or make us happy. And then, He showers blessings on us so that we have far more than we ever dreamed of having! Thus, we have a second, optional memory verse for this week which you can learn for extra points: Psalm 37:4. Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. It’s on your lesson booklet under the actual memory verse, which is 2 Timothy 2:22. (Anyone going to have trouble remembering that reference?) I'll pass out the lesson booklets now, and while you’re putting them in your notebooks, I'll explain our next activity.

Persecution's Power

Jael's Lesson:

For some reason, I've been thinking a lot about persecution and martyrdom lately. It's not exactly a cheerful topic, so it's strange that I, who to think mainly about cheerful things, should be pondering as much as I have been. But the other day, I was doing my morning devotions, and I came across Psalm 34. Now, this psalm is not the Psalm most people run during times of persecution. But, as I read it, I realized it really does fit the topic quite well. Psalm 34 is a cheerful Psalm, and I think the reason that, most of the time, we think it doesn't fit well, is because we imagine persecution something awful or dreadful. But it is really an excellent privilege. It ushers us into the presence of a our Lord, and it's one of the greatest honors that a Christian could ever have! So let's start the beginning of the Psalm, and we'll just read through it.

Verse 1:
"I will extoll the Lord at all times; his praise will always be on my lips." What a way for the song to start out! Talks about praising the Lord from the very beginning. But, in order to do this, your heart must be purified, because someone whose heart is full of filth and discontent can never praise him all times, especially when being persecuted. Let me share an example of this. I once read a story about some Christians who were being led into the arena to be eaten by wild animals. Normal people, in such a situation, would be pleading and begging for their lives. But not the Christians! They would lead into the arena singing praises to their King and Savior. They had no fear of the Lions. Their faith was in their God, and they knew that he would always do what was best for them.

Verse two:
"My soul will boast in the Lord; let the afflicted hear and rejoice."
God totally rocks. Let's just set that straight here and now. God is awesome! But it's one thing to say that here, in a comfortable house, and quite another to say it when you're being tortured. Here, you say it in a rather hum-drum way, 'cause you know it's true because you've been told it all your life, and you've also felt little nudges from God. But, when your body is being torked and pained and evil people are doing everything they can do to hurt you, God's awesomeness takes on an entirely different meaning. (Or so I've been told. I've never been tortured.) [ACT OUTHE STORY?] A great example of this in found in Acts 16:25. "About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them." They had peace, even after being flogged and tortured and pained in general. :-) This verse ties in with the next. "Glorify the Lord with me; let us exalt his name together." After Paul and Silas had been singing (and the other prisoners had been listening in - I just think it's so cool that their hope and joy was being transmitted to the other prisoners! I mean, if you were in jail, wouldn't you love fellow prisoners like Paul and Silas to cheer you up!?), there was a tremendous earthquake, and all the prisoners' chains came off. But none of them escaped! The jailer was so scared that he was about to kill himself, but Paul and Silas were able to offer hope to the afflicted (like in verse two). But that Bible story about Paul and Silas shows the power of Christians being together. Their love of Jesus just oozes out onto everyone else. They are positively dangerous! I've heard of jailers and governors and executioners being converted by Christians who were all stuck together in a jail cell! Some bad guys got so tired of their accomplices getting converted that they stuck each Christian into separate cells, hoping to dampen their witness. (chuckle)

Okay. On to verse 4.
"I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."
Note that it doesn't say that The Lord delivers you from all your troubles. It says that he delivers you from all your fears. Fear can be one of the greatest hindrances to success. For example, I am totally petrified of making phone calls. Like, I get butterflies in my stomach. It's AWFUL!! But, if I could get rid of the fear, phone calls wouldn't be a bad thing at all! So, if and when persecution comes, trust God to deliver you from your fear!
I once read about a man who was about to be thrown to the lions in a Roman amphitheater. But he was not afraid! He actually called the lion his friends, "because they were going to usher him into the presence of his Lord." Oh God! Give me courage like that!

Verse 5:
"Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame."
Although Christians may be thrown into prison for their confession of Christ, God promises that those who look to Him constantly will never been put to shame. They may suffer all sorts of terrible things at the hands of evil men, but they will have no reason to blush before the throne of God on Judgment Day. Just recently, I heard about a man who was being tortured for his faith. He suffered many things, but would not waiver in his conviction. Someone asked him how it was done, and he said, "I just look to my Savior, and pray that I may not deny him, no matter what they are doing to me or my family. And, thus far, He has kept me true. He is always right by me, and helps me keep a clear head whenever the tempter is near." Just thinking about it makes me go, "Wow!" I pray that when I have to suffer for Jesus, He will make me as strong as that!

Verse 6 is quite similar to verse 4. "This poor man called, and the Lord heard him; he saved him out of all his troubles." I once read about girl named Perpetua who was totally terrified of pain. She was arrested for being a Christian, and was eventually handed over to be fed to the wild animals in the arena, along with some of her friends. After several minutes of being tossed and trampled by the beasts, she said to one of her friends, "When will they begin to attack?" Her friend glanced at Perpetua's bleeding face, and said, "They HAVE been attacking you!" Perpetua replied, "But I have felt no pain!" God had delivered her both from her fear of pain, and from pain itself! God is merciful. One of my favorite Bible verses of all time is 1 Corinthians 10:13 - "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." That verse just gives me such hope! God knows how much I can or cannot bear!

Verse 7:
"The angel of the Lord in camps around those who fear him, and he delivers them."
I once read about a missionary family in Africa. They were faithfully serving The Lord, but the local witch doctor was really mad at how many converts they were making! So, he hired a local man hunter to go to their house, and kill them all while they slept. So, the guy took some of his henchmen along, and crept up on the house under the cover of darkness. But, when they got to the house, what they saw there made them turn on their heels and flee! The next morning, the man hunter walked up to the missionary's house, and asked the guy, "How can I be saved?" The missionary was delighted, and explained the way of salvation, which the man accepted. But, as the former man hunter was preparing to leave, he asked the missionary, "uh...where do you keep all your guards?" The missionary was surprised and said, "We don't have any guards!" But he insisted, "Last night, I came here to kill you, but surrounded your house were three rows of the largest, biggest, strongest men I had ever seen; all with swords, and wearing white tunics!" Then the missionary realized that God had protected them last night by sending angels to encircle the house.

Verse 8.
"Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man takes refuge him."
Remember where Jesus says, "Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God"? Well, here's an earlier verse that says the same thing. :-) There was a guy who was locked into prison for many years, in solitary confinement. He saw very few people during his years there, yet he lacked nothing, because, in his younger days, he had felt compelled to memorize from
Romans to Hebrews. During his time in prison, he realized how valuable that chunk was Scripture was, and, since it was memorized, he was able to meditate on it constantly, and it sustained him.

Verse 9:
"Fear the Lord, you His saints, for those who fear Him lack nothing."
This is a verse that many "health, wealth, and prosperity" preachers say is proof that Christians will never lack any good thing. But that's not what it says. Someone may not even have a shirt on their back, and be the happiest, most content creature alive, lacking nothing. And, a lot of Christians in persecuted countries view their persecution as a good thing. Once, when Brother Andrew was behind the iron curtain, he met with a group of church leaders. During the course of their conversation, he mentioned that the churches back where he was from were praying for them to remain strong. One of the leaders said, "Thank you so much! And we also pray for you!" Brother Andrew was astonished, and said, "But, we're not the ones undergoing persecution!" The pastor replied, "And that's why we pray for you! Without persecution, how do you keep from growing cold in your faith? The persecution keeps us devoted to our cause, but you guys AREN'T being tortured. It must be SOOO hard to keep from growing cold!"

[TAKE A BREAK TO WRITE LETTERS TO PERSECUTED CHRISTIANS]

Verse 10:
"The lions may grow weak and hungry, but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing."
You would not believe how many times this verse actually was proved true in the early church! As I was reading through all these histories of early martyrdoms  I kept running across paragraphs like, "Although the lion had not been fed in many days, he would not approach the Christians. Even when prodded with red-hot irons, he could not advance. At times, it was like some invisible force was pushing the lion backwards! Finally, the executioner just ran the Christians through with a sword, and they died." Literally, the lions grew weak with hunger, but Christians were in heaven, lacking no good thing!

Verse 11:
"Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord."
This verse is the theme verse of persecution. Imagine persecution saying to all Christians, "Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord." It's like a red-hot stove saying to Rosemary, "Come, Rosemary. Listen to me. I will teach you the fear of the stove!" Nothing increases your respect of a stove like getting burned. In the same way, not increases your devotion to your King like persecution. I know very few people who will die for something they don't believe in, or know to be false. But if you KNOW something to be true, all of creation can't take it away from you.

Verse 12 and 13:
"Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and you lips from speaking lies."
Have any of you ever heard about a guy name Richard Wurmbrand? He was tortured in Romanian prisons for many years, yet he never gave up his faith. In fact, once he told his fellow Christian prison mates, "I made a deal with the guards. They beat me. I preach to you. That way we're both happy." That's dedication, I tell you! After all those years of beating, though, his heart was full of love. I once talked with someone who had spoken with him before he died, and they said, "That guy's eyes were so full of love that they almost exploded with all the pressure!"
If and when I'm persecuted, that's what I want people to say about me! I have trouble loving everyone when I'm not persecuted, so I know that God's gonna have to really work in me!

Verse 14:
"Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it."
A long time ago, there was this guy named Dirk who was being ruthlessly chased by the local pagan magistrate. Dirk was a Christian, and he knew the Bible's command to seek peace. So, during the course of their foot chase, Dirk dashed across a frozen pond. The magistrate, who was slightly heavier that Dirk, broke the ice, and fell into the frozen river. His screams for help reached Dirk's ears, and Dirk knew what he had to do. He turned round, went back onto the ice, and rescued his pursuer. Instead of showing his thanks by letting Dirk go (since his only "crime" was that of being a Christian), he arrested Dirk, and put him into prison, where he eventually died. Dirk could have SO EASILY left the magistrate to drown, while he went free, but he knew that that wouldn't be the God-honoring thing. "Seek peace and pursue it."

Verse 15-16:
"The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry; the face of the Lord is against those who do evil, to cut off at memory of them from the earth."
One of the consolations Christians in chains have is that their King sees them, and hears them. Then, He acts mightily on their behalf, in various ways. For some, He delivers them from their pain. For others, He helps them withstand everything, and stay true to their God.
But those who have their faces against God, He puts to shame. There was this guy in the 1800's named Friedrich Neitze who was convinced that God didn't exist. In fact, he once said, "God is dead." (!) Yet, Friedrich Neitze died, and God is still around.
Just the other day, I saw a quote that said, "Friedrich Neitze said, "God is dead." God says, "Friedrich Neitze is dead." Those who rebel against God never get very far.

Verse 17-18:
"The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
As I mentioned earlier, God doesn't usually act as we expect. He doesn't usually rescue us like we're expecting, but He rescues us from our fear, or from Satan. But He loves people with broken hearts. It's like clay that's been worked with for a while, soft and pliable. It can be shaped any way He wants it.
I read about a girl who was being led to the stake, all the while being encouraged to blaspheme Jesus. But she refused so steadfastly, and showed such courage that her EXECUTIONER was converted, and had to be killed with her!

Verse 19:
"A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all;"
This verse really stuck out to me. It dawned on me that the more problems I encounter, the more often God will be able to rescue me. So, the more problems I have, the more miracles I'll see. But just talking about this is rather dull. Let me prove it to you, in a rather elementary example. [ACTIVITY]

Verse 20:
"he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken."
Any famous example you can think of for this one? Yes. Jesus! :-) 'nough said.

Verse 21:
"Evil will slay the wicked; the foes of the righteous will be condemned."
Maybe it's because I'm so vindictive, but I just love the idea of evil doers coming to justice. I mean, I want all to be saved, but if someone has done wrong, and won't repent, I want to see them get their just desserts. So, when I read a true story about a Roman governor who was a terrible persecutor of the church, I was so excited. This guy was just brutal in his persecution, and many Christians died after horrible torture by his order. But then, his province was overthrown, and the governor himself was subjected to some of the same tortures he had used on Christians!

Verse 22:
"The Lord redeems his servants; no one will be condemned and takes refuge in him."
This verse refers to the end times. Although we may be condemned to death here on earth, God will sustain us so that we are not condemned before God. I read about a Christian who was particularly steadfast in his confession of Christ. When asked later after his release how he could be so bold, he replied, "I had read about Peter, and his denial of Christ, and I did not want to weep bitterly.

If you want the lesson in a sentence, this is what I want to have passed along:
Persecution is not something to dread, because God always provides grace for the moment. He rejected Jesus (on the cross) so that He'd never have to reject you.

Submitting Yourself To God's Will

Sylvia's Lesson:

The captain of the ship looked into the dark night and saw faint lights in the distance. Immediately he told his signalman to send a message" "Alter your course 10 degrees south." Promptly a return message was received: "Alter your course 10 degrees north."

The captain was angered; his command had been ignored. So he sent a second message: "Alter your course 10 degrees south--I am the captain!" Soon another message was received: "Alter your course 10 degrees north--I am seaman third class Jones." Immediately the captain sent a third message, knowing the fear it would evoke: "Alter your course 10 degrees south--I am a battleship." Then the reply came "Alter your course 10 degrees north--I am a lighthouse."

So often we think that we should be the ones to decide our own future and that if others stand in our way, they should be the ones to move. But often God is the one placing obstacles in our paths, trying to steer us away from dangerous “rocks” and keep us on the course He has set for us.

God has a perfect plan for us, and He knows everything… so why do we have such trouble trusting everything into His hands?

A big part of it is fear. We know with our minds that God is in control and that He knows better than we do, but our emotions pull us the opposite direction. We like knowledge; we fear the unknown. But fear can be sinful. If we’re constantly afraid, our fear pushes us away from God. “Perfect love casts out fear” as 1 John 4:18 says, but the opposite is semi-true as well. If we’re harboring fear, we’re not trusting in God. If we trust in Him and obey Him in spite of our fear, He’ll fill us with such a measure of His love that our fears will be cast out.

I speak from experience! Some of you may have noticed that I can be kind of shy at times, but even so, if you’d met me a few years ago at any social function, you probably wouldn’t recognize me! I was not just shy, I was insecure and standoffish. I was terrified of what people would think of me, very easily offended, unwilling to do anything that might direct attention to myself, and horribly afraid of doing something stupid. The result was that I did many stupid things!

Well, when one of His children has a problem like that, God doesn’t just stand by. He set about to change me. And… well… I can’t say that I liked it. His treatment included making me serve as a small group leader at my old Bright Lights group from the start, sending me to TeenPact, and worst of all, leading me to start a Drama Club two years ago.

I must admit, I was not the greatest small group leader that first year. I shook uncontrollably from fear during the small group meetings… hopefully none of the girls noticed! Our group was pretty quiet since I had trouble even carrying on a normal conversation, and leading group discussion was MUCH worse! But the girls were sweet and patient, and I stopped being quite as afraid.
Then… Drama Club. I have no idea why I actually started it. I was still terrified of speaking in front of people, and leading a group of other kids was not exactly in the middle of my comfort zone. The only explanation is that God laid it on my heart, and everything just kind of fell into place. God has a way of making things work out like that! So… the first day of Drama Club arrived. And I wasn’t sure if my co-leader was going to be there or not. Sixteen kids had signed up… I took a look at our living room and suddenly sixteen seemed like sixty. A couple of the kids were older than me and, of course, most were taller. I had a mini panic attack. What in the world am I DOING!? I can’t do this! It was time to start all of a sudden, and my co-leader… wasn’t there. I was stuck with sixteen kids, all of whom were sitting quietly and awkwardly in our living room, watching me. It was freaky! That was probably one of the scariest days of my life, though now I wouldn’t have any problem with being in that situation.

Over the next few weeks, I had to learn to boss people around… even if they were guys who were taller and older than me. I had to learn to make other kids be quiet and do as I said. For a girl who wanted to be that quiet one and not stand out, it was absolutely terrifying.

But gradually, my comfort zone grew. And grew.

Last year I led Drama Club again… on the day of auditions I stood in front of thirty-one kids… double the original number. I was absolutely thrilled to find out that I wasn’t afraid. I had a blast with Drama Club last summer! It was stressful, but I was relying on God, and my comfort zone was about fifteen times bigger than it had been before!

Plus, I'd gone to TeenPact that spring. For those of you who don’t know, TeenPact is a government and leadership class in which homeschoolers go up to the state capitol and learn about the way our government works. Some of the things we have to do include reading bills we’ve written in front of a hundred or so people, debate peers, and interview random lobbyists. If you have fear or insecurity issues when you go to TeenPact, you will have changed dramatically by the time you get back. There’s no time or room for fear; you do what you have to do… and you love it.

My fear used to be the most powerful factor in my life. I hate to admit it, but it’s true! Well, God doesn’t like it when anything is more powerful than He. So… He decided to fix things for me. And I can honestly say that the past few years, though not always the most fun, have been by far the most rewarding of my entire life.

The thing is, I still struggle with fear sometimes. Some people just have a gift, though they don’t try to, of terrifying me back into shyness. Some situations just scare me irrationally. But the great thing is that God can even use our fears to bring us closer to Him. If we’re totally afraid to the point of thinking I can’t do this; it’s too hard/too scary! And yet we choose to do it anyway, we’re relying completely on God to complete us and make up for our lack of courage.

We’re going to play a game to illustrate the way we should rely on God. (Blindfold game)

(Talk about game- was it scary? Why?)

What character quality did you need to practice when you were blindfolded? (Trust)

It's not something you would immediately think of,  but you also had to practice humility. Think about it- if you hadn't been humble enough to do exactly what your partner told you, you probably wouldn't have done too well!

Trust takes humility. We have to admit that God knows everything and we don't... just like in the game, God sees the big picture, whereas we're blind.

How many of you have heard of Samuel Morse? (raise hands)

Samuel Morse was the inventor of the telegraph. He accomplished outstanding things in his lifetime, received many honors, and was greatly respected. Once someone asked him if he ever encountered situations where he didn’t know what to do. His response was “More than once, and whenever I could not see my way clearly, I knelt down and prayed to God for light and understanding." He said of his invention of the telegraph, "I have made a valuable application of electricity not because I was superior to other men but solely because God, who meant it for mankind, must reveal it to someone and He was pleased to reveal it to me."

We need to realize, as Samuel Morse did, that it is God who is in charge of our lives. He is responsible for every success we ever have. He loves us more than we could imagine, and we have every reason to trust Him enough to just step back and let Him control our lives. He will do a much better job than we ever could!

Jesus

Jael's Lesson: 

Jesus loves you. He fills your every desire!

How many of you want to be married some day?

How many of you want your future spouse to be kind? Thoughtful? Godly? Cheerful? Loving? Dependable? Wise?

Jesus is all of those. He healed the sick and the blind and the lame. He provided a home for his mother while on the cross. He withdrew to lonely places to pray. He was filled with joy through the Holy Spirit (Luke 10:21). He blessed the little children. He was known to attend the required feasts each year. When he was 12, the elders at the temple asked where he got such wisdom.

And, what's even better is, he never changes!

Someday, if, by God's grace, you are married, your husband may die or get sick, and you are left by yourself. If you are dependent on him for your security, then such a blow could be crushing. But, what if, even before you met your husband, you had placed all your security on Jesus, who never changes, your source of security would remain constant, even through a traumatic situation. (Elliots, and the movie couple)
Jesus is so much better than anyone or anything in this world! He answers prayer like you wouldn't believe. (Story of listening device problems) He is with you when you pray. (Warm feeling)

He is totally amazing! He filled every nook and cranny with his warm, wonderful presence! In him is fullness of joy! (Joy experiences)

So seek him! He loves for you to look for him! Just like hide and seek and scavenger hunts are so much fun, searching for Jesus is a fun, rewarding experience. Jesus wants you took look for him. Read the Bible, expecting to find some little gem that he's hidden there just for you, today! Usually, when I do that, I come away with a notebook pages of notes, pointing out stuff he's put in there for me to find!

He loves you so much more than your dad or your mom, or any other person in the world! And he's always around. You can talk to him whenever you're happy or distressed. He wants to hold you when you're lonely, and living with you during every moment of every day! (Life is dull without him! Trust me!) (story of inviting Jesus out)

Sometimes, when I'm outside, praying out loud, I just hold out my land like I'm holding his, and it helps me concentrate.

So spend time getting to know him! He'll never let you down! He is the ONLY one who can fill ALL of your heart's desires, ALL the time.